Marriage is not just a bed of roses, hidden amongst the petals and the sweet fragrance of young love are many hidden thorns too. After the comfortable honeymoon phase, these thorns begin to pop up and act like growing pains, that will challenge the relationship and force it into a growth process that can take years to mature. I believe these growing pains are a necessary part of the process. But ,who in their right mind would want mental pain, we avoid discomfort at all cost. It has been said that mental suffering is perhaps life's greatest teacher. Suffering , helps to diminish the sensitive and often inflated ego, which then clears the way and opens the door for a growing humility, a selflessness, a greater compassion, the capacity to love deeply and a non-judgemental spirit. We become more human and grow in humanistic values.
To use another analogy ,the marriage path is not all smooth terrain, we do stumble and fall along the way, and yes we sometimes get hurt, but if we can persevere long enough, the two can become much stronger together, the bond of love grows deeper. In the beginning there will be mountains of bliss, with the wonderful passion of youth, perhaps followed by the valleys of discomfort and challenge when the growth process really sets in. Eventually though you get to the point in the spirit journey together where you get past all the drama with its peaks and valleys of youthful experience and emotion and you reach a level plateau, where things do smooth out, the way looks clearer, and the relationship matures.
You will know love has matured when you take a greater delight in the other persons happiness rather then your own.You become less concerned about what you can get from the other and you become more grateful for, and contented in, what already is , present ,here and now in your lives.
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